RESOURCES FOR JOURNALISTS -- MEMOIRS -- ARTICLE ONE
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Five Do-able Tips
for Remembering & Writing Great Lifestories

by Denis Ledoux

Is your family one of the many whose history is lost to future generations because no one has written it down?

Writing your stories-- even just a few-- is a great way to memorialize your family and to keep the experience of your life-- and theirs-- from being forgotten. The details you take for granted, or consider obvious, may be lost to the next generation unless you make the effort to record them in writing.

Writing down a memory and sharing it with others is a way to celebrate your life and your family. It is not as hard as some people think-- anyone who is willing to follow the few simple steps I will outline below can succeed at writing their autobiography or family history. More and more people-- in fact, many who at first think they can't-- are succeeding at exploring and honoring their pasts in this way.

Follow these five tips for remembering and writing a pleasing and meaningful lifestory that will honor both your family and yourself and create a legacy for your children.

Many adjectives are imprecise and simply do not convey the same meaning to one reader as they do to another. Use dialog, action, and setting to show what you mean.

These five suggestions are among the most powerful-- and easiest-- to implement in your personal and family history writing.

And remember: practice makes perfect. If you want to preserve your personal and family history, you must write, write, write. Set yourself a time to write and honor your commitment. Your great grandchildren will be so glad you did.

Good luck!
1) Make a memory list. This is a list of everything you can remember about the people, places, and actions of a particular memory, era, or "character" in your life. Anything you recall is important enough to include. Jot down 3-5 words for each item on your list ("royal blue suit" "scent of eucalyptus"). Your list will eventually be hundreds of items long. Creating this list will stimulate you to remember more than you can now think possible. It will provide you with the details to make your story full and memorable. Once you have a memory list, you just pick an item and begin to write!

2) Show your story; don't tell it. Good stories engage us actively. Do this by recording action like a movie camera: show your "characters" (your family and friends) moving, talking and interacting rather than simply describing them. Write "She paced back and forth to the window, looking up and down the street for Jason," rather than "she was impatient for Jason to get back." Now really, which do you find more interesting to read!

3) Use all five senses. Instead of writing that the room was "lovely," give the reader details: color, style of furniture and curtains, lighting and decorations. Now, they can "see" the details for themselves. Use the other senses, too: smell, sound, taste and touch.

4) Use dialogue. When you express thoughts and feelings in the "character's" own voices, you make them jump right off the page. It's okay to approximate or recreate a conversation especially if you take the time to remember unique phrases or pronunciations. Keep it short (it will be more believable and easier to write). Do not, however, make us read long dialog. It will sound like you've put words in other's mouths.

5) Replace adjectives with dialog, action, or setting. You'll gain vividness and immediacy as a result. Change "she was protective" to dialogue: "she said 'Don't you ever, ever say that to my son again'." Turn "she was angry" into an action: "she grabbed the plate and flung it against the wall." Replace "we were poor" with details of setting: "The torn green and black linoleum barely covered the center of the room."
The idea of remembering, reviewing and recording definitive versions of our family histories and our own lifestories, like many tasks we undertake in life, can be overwhelming. Reflect on parenting as an example.

Parenting is a creative project that would have daunted a lot of us if it had to be done all at once. Think of all those dirty diapers and sleepless nights, teacher conferences, recitals, ball games, dental appointments, and insurance payments--if they came all together, who could approach parenting at all let alone with eager delight? Thankfully, as parents, we only had to meet each day's challenges as they come.

Approach lifewriting in the same way: write each memory or family story, each character or event one step at a time.

You'll find the rewards are there waiting for you and your family--understanding and appreciation of who you are and where you've come from, affirmation and celebration of what you've achieved and where you're headed--rewards that take you far beyond the names and dates.


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